The Bishop couldn’t have called my old cell phone. It’s still activated and I have YouMail on it. YouMail is a voicemail service that emails you when someone has called, even if they don’t leave a message! And I haven’t received any emails! Wow! The things people do! I can’t believe that he would lie like that! I’m sure he’s doing it so he won’t get in trouble with the stake president. But what does that say about him? Oh well, it’s his life, not mine.
I received a Christmas card from my ex-VT. It’s beautiful! Her husband is a well-known photographer in this area and has been for years. He must be well-known elsewhere, as he actually had the opportunity to photograph Bush Sr. and his wife not too long ago. I don’t know who took their family portraits, or who designed the card, but it was very nice. No, I’m not going back, but I did send her a Christmas card and a short letter about school.
I don’t recall if I mentioned that I ran into an another member of the church while at Walmart the other day. It was weird. She said hi to me and the husband and rambled on about doing some grocery shopping. I was polite and tried to get away as fast as I could. I tried so hard to be her friend before, but she never showed any effort to want to be friends outside of church. I rarely talked to her there, either, because she was part of the YW’s presidency, I believe. So, she was always busy with that and I never saw her outside of sacrament service. Anyway, it just seemed like pulling teeth to be ‘friends’ with those from the church. Maybe they just knew that I wasn’t a TBM. I never did accept all the teachings of the church. Of course, a few were friends with me on Facebook and saw some of my posts weren’t very conservative like a prim and proper member of the church should be! LOL!
Oh and I haven’t received any letter about me no longer being a member of the church, at least according to their records.
“Thanks so much for your reply. I am glad to hear that your decision to leave the church is not based on hurt feelings. We have appreciated your friendship during the last few years and hope that we will remain friends for the future. We will go ahead with removing your name from the records of the church. Regaining your membership in the church will now require rebaptism.
Please let me know if there is anything we can help you with in the future.
I know, I should have used the email to tell him the church is wrong, etc., but I’m really not that way. I’ll save that for the evangelicals! 😉
Thank you for the Christmas wishes!
As for your inquiry, I have nothing against anyone in the church! Everyone was very helpful and friendly to me! So, it’s not anything anyone did! I just couldn’t accept some of the teachings, any longer. I didn’t feel right being what I would term a “Buffet Mormon.” I always had a problem taking what I liked and leaving the rest, no matter what church I was a member of. I wrote back because I really wanted you to know that it was nothing you or any member of the church has done. You had always been helpful to me and for that, I thank you!
I hope that you and your family have a Merry Christmas, too!
The bishop wrote me this in an email:
I want to wish you a Merry Christmas! I have tried over the last few weeks to get in touch with you regarding your letter requesting your name removal from the records of the church. I have stopped by your house and left several messages on your phone as I really wanted to talk to you in person. I understand that you do not wish to have further contact with the church. I just wanted to convey my regards to you and see if there is anything that we could know as a church regarding your decision. I have not been aware of any ill feelings that you have had against the church or its members in the past so I was very suprised by your request. However, I respect your agency and will proceed with your name removal if this is your wish. If so, please know that we will always be here to welcome you back or to reach out and help you in a time of need.
I wish you the most wonderful Christmas. I hope to hear from you regarding your wish.
Well, no one has been by the house as the dogs bark so loud when someone is at the door or even when a car pulls up! He has not called the house phone, either. He may have called the cell phone, as I changed my number, I’ll give him that much. My husband said to tell him to stop lying, as it’s a sin! I got a laugh out of that one!
That’s what I need to remember, that this “love” is all fake. I would bet that if I did return to the church(believe me, I am NOT going to), the “love” would disappear. It wasn’t there, before, so why would it be there in the future.? So, I’ve decided not to email my former VT, anymore. It’s for the best. As my friend from MIT pointed out, it looks like she was recruited by the bishop to bring me back into the cult! I don’t need that type of ‘friendship.’
It’s started with just my VT. I feel like crying. The following is what she wrote in an email this morning:
“Again, I feel so bad that you asked to have your name removed from the church records, but of course you have your agency to choose that. When someone takes such a drastic measure like this we can’t help but wonder why. It’s human nature I guess. But I do know that we have a wonderful bishop who truly loves and cares for the members of his ward as well as those of our community. So if he does get in contact with you, please give him an opportunity to visit with you. He really is a good man who sacrifices much of his time with his own family to continue to serve those under his care. If it is easier to meet with him at his office I can pick you up for that meeting. Believe me when I say that you have been and are in the prayers of many.
Don’t worry about feeling pressure to change your mind because I know that he wouldn’t do that. I’m sure that he would like to understand why.”
I sent a handwritten letter to the bishop of my former ward. My former VT, whom I am trying to stay friends with, said I would have to talk to him. Now, I know I don’t have to, but I sent the letter, anyway. I read the Church Handbook of Instructions and it states that any member who wants their name removed has to send a handwritten letter to the bishop. Like I said, I know I didn’t have to, but I did. Might be a bad idea, might not be. Anyway, it’s in the mail. I asked to be removed immediately, with no contact except for a written letter of confirmation that my name was removed. Who knows, maybe it’ll make the process go faster!