My experience with leaving the Mormon church

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Just thinking

The Bishop couldn’t have called my old cell phone.  It’s still activated and I have YouMail on it.  YouMail is a voicemail service that emails you when someone has called, even if they don’t leave a message!  And I haven’t received any emails!  Wow!  The things people do!  I can’t believe that he would lie like that!  I’m sure he’s doing it so he won’t get in trouble with the stake president.  But what does that say about him?  Oh well, it’s his life, not mine.

I received a Christmas card from my ex-VT.  It’s beautiful!  Her husband is a well-known photographer in this area and has been for years.  He must be well-known elsewhere, as he actually had the opportunity to photograph Bush Sr. and his wife not too long ago.  I don’t know who took their family portraits, or who designed the card, but it was very nice.  No, I’m not going back, but I did send her a Christmas card and a short letter about school.

I don’t recall if I mentioned that I ran into an another member of the church while at Walmart the other day.  It was weird.  She said hi to me and the husband and rambled on about doing some grocery shopping.  I was polite and tried to get away as fast as I could.  I tried so hard to be her friend before, but she never showed any effort to want to be friends outside of church.  I rarely talked to her there, either, because she was part of the YW’s presidency, I believe.  So, she was always busy with that and I never saw her outside of sacrament service.  Anyway, it just seemed like pulling teeth to be ‘friends’ with those from the church.  Maybe they just knew that I wasn’t a TBM.  I never did accept all the teachings of the church.  Of course, a few were friends with me on Facebook and saw some of my posts weren’t very conservative like a prim and proper member of the church should be!  LOL!

Oh and I haven’t received any letter about me no longer being a member of the church, at least according to their records.


It’s all fake

That’s what I need to remember, that this “love” is all fake.  I would bet that if I did return to the church(believe me, I am NOT going to), the “love” would disappear.  It wasn’t there, before, so why would it be there in the future.? So, I’ve decided not to email my former VT, anymore.  It’s for the best.  As my friend from MIT pointed out, it looks like she was recruited by the bishop to bring me back into the cult!  I don’t need that type of ‘friendship.’

The Love-Bombs

It’s started with just my VT.  I feel like crying.  The following is what she wrote in an email this morning:

“Again, I feel so bad that you asked to have your name removed from the church records, but of course you have your agency to choose that. When someone takes such a drastic measure like this we can’t help but wonder why. It’s human nature I guess. But I do know that we have a wonderful bishop who truly loves and cares for the members of his ward as well as those of our community. So if he does get in contact with you, please give him an opportunity to visit with you. He really is a good man who sacrifices much of his time with his own family to continue to serve those under his care. If it is easier to meet with him at his office I can pick you up for that meeting. Believe me when I say that you have been and are in the prayers of many.
Don’t worry about feeling pressure to change your mind because I know that he wouldn’t do that. I’m sure that he would like to understand why.”

Probably a bad idea

I sent a handwritten letter to the bishop of my former ward.  My former VT, whom I am trying to stay friends with, said I would have to talk to him.  Now, I know I don’t have to, but I sent the letter, anyway.  I read the Church Handbook of Instructions and it states that any member who wants their name removed has to send a handwritten letter to the bishop.  Like I said, I know I didn’t have to, but I did.  Might be a bad idea, might not be.  Anyway, it’s in the mail.  I asked to be removed immediately, with no contact except for a written letter of confirmation that my name was removed.  Who knows, maybe it’ll make the process go faster!

Former VT responds.

Basically she said she’s sad about my decision, but respects it.  She would still like to get together for lunch, as she has many non-member friends.  She also said she would not try and talk me out of my decision.  So, I am going to give her a chance.  Not next week, as I start school then and would like to see how things go before I start making any plans with anyone.  So, we’ll see.  I emailed her back, explaining the situation.  Otherwise, nothing new to report.

My response to my former VT

No offense to you, or anyone in the ward, but I prefer to have no more contact with the church.  I have officially sent in my resignation and am not changing my mind.  I appreciate everything you have done for me in the short time we have known each other.

Thank you,


Visiting Teacher called and emailed.

I didn’t realize it was her that called until she emailed me.  She even called my home phone and when I went to answer, the person on the other end, hung up.  She wants to take me out to lunch next week.  I really don’t know how to handle the situation.  Should I even reply?  So far I’ve been ignoring all former contact from ward members, which has only been her and the RS President.  Both have even wrote me letters, without suggesting they know I’ve left the church.  I want to ignore her, but I’m afraid she’ll just show up on my doorstep.  If she comes when hubby is sleeping, he’ll be really upset.  I’ll be upset that she came over period.  Anyway, I wrote to my email group for Mormons In Transition, for advice on how to handle the situation.  I really don’t owe her anything, though.  I would just think that by now, the Bishop would have told them about me leaving.  :-/